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On this holiday weekend in the midst of fireworks and fun, leisure and lightness, fun and frolic, how about taking a few minutes of quiet and solitude to reflect on how you’re doing as a leader, manager or supervisor.

Does your leading, managing and supervising performance and behavior provide cause for celebration?

So, on a scale of:

3 = Always
2 = Usually or Often
1 = Reasonably
0 = Rarely or never

How might you rate yourself on the following:

1. My mission, objectives, and goals reflect my highest values and principles.
2. My vision and values are in alignment with my organization’s mission and values.
3. My team is committed to achieving our company’s goals and objectives.
4. I lead my people by example. I walk my talk. I am in integrity.
5. I have the knowledge, skills and resources necessary to perform my tasks effectively.
6. My team members have the knowledge, skills and resources to be optimally productive.
7. My team members understand the benefits of collaborating to move in a unified direction.
8. I observe on-the-job activity and am available for questions and feedback.
9. My team members establish priorities for tasks to be accomplished.
10. I listen carefully to my team members and encourage them to express their opinions.
11. I resolve conflict as it occurs, and consider the best interests of all concerned.
12. I inform my team members immediately about changes, policies, and procedures that affect them.
13. I am firm and fair-minded when dealing with my co-workers.
14. I have the best interests of my coworkers in mind.
15. I recognize optimal performance, and express appreciation in a timely manner.
16. I delegate responsibility, accountability, and authority effectively.
17. My team members receive adequate training, coaching and participation on the job.
18. When I delegate a task, I trust my coworkers can do the job and I do not interfere.
19. I encourage initiative, involvement, and innovation from my co-workers.
20. I use constructive feedback to optimize the productivity of co-workers.
21. My decisions are consistent with corporate policies, procedures, and objectives.
22. I take calculated risks, and develop contingency plans for major decisions.
23. I develop objectives and performance standards with my people.
24. I systematically evaluate the performance of my people.
25. I motivate my people to do their best on the job.

Some questions for self-reflection:

  • As a leader, manager or supervisor, how would I rate myself? As a real firecracker, or a dud, or somewhere in between? Why?
  • How would others rate me? Why?
  • How do I know?
  • Do I care? Do others care?
  • What positive change(s) have I made in my capacity for leading, managing or supervising during the past year?
  • Bonus question – will I depend on alcohol, drugs, excessive intake of food, sugar, caffeine, or other external stimulants to enjoy this holiday? Could I experience true and real joy, peace, pleasure, happiness and OK-ness without these? What would my experience be like this holiday without dependance on external sources or stimulants to give me a boost, to shore me up, or to artificially make me feel joyful or happy? Am I willing to try this? Why or why not?

(c) 2014, Peter G. Vajda, Ph.D. and True North Partnering. All rights in all media reserved.

I’m grateful for the opportunity to share this reading with you and I hope you find it insightful and useful.
Perhaps you’ll share this with others, post it on a bulletin board, and use it to generate rich and rewarding discussion.

What is the one thing that is keeping you from feeling successful, happy, confident, in control or at peace as you live your life – at work, at home, at play or in relationship? Maybe you know what that “thing” is – maybe you don’t. You just have a feeling that something has to change, whether or not you embrace that change. And how would that change support you to show up as a “better you?”

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